This tip actually comes in handy after you have written the query. After you have sent the query. After you have sweated and waited… weeks, maybe months. After you have gotten a reply from the agent, and that reply is a rejection.
This past weekend I was at the wonderful Southern California Writers’ Conference at which I sat on an agent’s panel and answered some questions about the query process. During the panel, one of the agents said (roughly paraphrased) “After we have rejected you, please resist that urge to fire off a really nasty reply to us. Agents are people too, we have feelings too.”
I’ve dealt with my fair share of irate replies after a rejection letter, but for some reason I thought I deserved it, and I tried to empathize with the writer. But I think this particular agent made a really great point. And so tip #3 is to resist the fuming reply after a rejection.